I want to introduce you to a unique concept that may finally change how you view your game with women.

I want to introduce you to a unique concept that may finally change how you view your game with women. First, let's talk about your inner monologue, dude.

One of the most powerful personal development methods you can use to alter the course of your life (your DESTINY, really) is through the use of QUESTIONS.

Questions cut through and clarify the current state of affairs, and they help you see what may not have been visible before. However, they can only do this if you have the guts to answer them TRUTHFULLY. The man who lies to himself can never see the world clearly, and will then subject every bit of his reality to illusion - like looking at the world through distorted glass. In the short-term, he'll make himself feel 'better' about things by lying to himself, but in the long-term he'll just ensure his own failure.

Success is fleeting when it's based on faulty understanding.

Ask yourself a few questions to clarify where YOU are right now:

Are you looking for just one woman to "settle down" with? If so, why?

Do you want to sleep with as many women as you can? And why?

Are you feeling that your skills in meeting and getting women interested in you are where you want them to be? If not, what are you doing to remedy this situation?

If you know you want something (a woman, a new job, a more comfortable social life), what is stopping you from having it?

Do you ever feel incapable of doing the things you know you need to do? Do you wish you had a "magic button" you could push that would get you in gear when you need to?

These questions focus on the one critical element of any drive to change your life: your MOTIVATION. Asking yourself questions allows you to find out what it is that kicks you in the ass and gets you moving toward your goals.

Without understanding what it is that drives you, you could spend your whole life saying something like this:
"I wish I knew somewhere to go to meet women."
"I have the worst luck with women."
"Yeah, I'll be at work late. You know me - I've got no life." (Even jokingly.)
"I'm happy being single." (When it's a cop-out for failures with women.)
"Yeah, I know, BUT..." ("But" what?)
"I'll just rent a movie at home tonight..."
"I can't find any women that are right for me..." (While only "meeting" one woman every couple of weeks or months at best.)

If there's one person you have to tell the truth to in the end, it's yourself, guys. The reality is that the ONLY way to improve your situation with women is to get out there and interact with MORE women. Of every kind imaginable. Friends, lovers, acquaintances, you name it. QUANTITY is the name of the game. MORE women means MORE opportunities. It's a simple numbers game.

MORE women means more successes... and more failures. Remember that the sports superstars don't just succeed more, they also fail more. But the failures aren't failures to them, and they don't mean anything to them. When you're in a scarcity (and SCARED-ity) mindset, the failures hurt so much because they comprise a high proportion of your game.

If you meet 2 women and strike out with 1, that's 50%. If you meet 10 women and strike out with 5, that's still 50%, but you bet your ass you don't care as much when you've got the other 5 saying "Yes, please." Your RATIO of failures is the same, but you've just multiplied your successes by FIVE.

Pretty slick, huh? Let's call this seduction math.

If the woman you're looking for is one-in-a-thousand, guess how many women you're likely to have to go through to find her?

"Uhhh.... heheh... Dude... I'm not good at math..."

Well, it would be nice if she showed up in the first ten or fifteen, but that's not how Murphy's Law works. If you have a 1 in 1000 shot, chances are your number will come up right around the end... say, Ms. 999 or Ms. 1000. So get busy.

If you find yourself saying "I'm just not lucky with women," it's nothing about LUCK. It's that you aren't exposing yourself to enough women to warrant MORE success.

EVERY question and problem works itself out if you approach enough women. EVERY bit of understanding and skill comes from the number of women you get into your life by taking action. Knowledge isn't power - it's only POTENTIAL. ACTION is what separates the men from the boys.

EVERY problem you're having with your dating life right now can be traced back to some root causes, but most wind up being that guys simply don't TRY enough. They don't try, and they don't succeed, and then they don't ask themselves the all-important question:
What can *I* do to change this situation, instead of blaming something outside my control or sphere of influence?

And, that all-important follow up:
What do I need to start thinking in order to motivate myself to actually DO IT?

Ask yourself those hard questions. The difference in the quality of your life can be traced back to the decisions you make every day.

And every decision started out as a question.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys.

Why?

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

The answer to the riddle is this: STOP asking women out!

First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."

Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU.

You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test you out. It's like her first drive of a new car. She doesn't want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes across to her) she'll say No, even if she isn't sure yet.

Most women are NOT attracted to you immediately unless it's by your looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal to win you the one you want, you'll be relying on "luck." There's a much better way.

Don't move so fast on her. Be patient. (Oh, and another fringe benefit of not asking a woman out is that you can't be rejected. Pretty cool, huh?)

Take a moment and think about which of these would be most interesting to a woman:

A) A meal and/or movie date that demonstrates no originality, and implies that she'll have to be considering you romantically, and that there will be pressure for her to be "on," and then after it's all done, she'll have to deal with your attempt to kiss her. Scary.

B) A chance to go out and have some fun, with no pressure.

Which one sounds better to you?

Now, if you're still leaning towards Option A, think about which one sounds better to HER?

Does Option B sound better now? You better believe it does.

Now, it may not seem to have your interests in mind right away, but that's not what winning a girl's heart is about. It's about forgetting what YOU want for long enough so that you can give her what SHE wants.

Let's put it this way - would you invest $10,000 of your hard-earned money in a stock you'd never even heard of before? No way! You'd want to see what the company is about, check out the fundamentals. And THEN you might be willing to invest a few hundred or so.

That's what it looks like to her - potentially BIG risk, and no guarantee of return.

There's a saying: "You can have anything you want in this world if you just help enough other people get what they want."

Also, Option B gives her a little MYSTERY about your intentions and your interest, and that is what a woman wants. Remember: hope + doubt = passion.

So now that you've figured out that you need to give her a lower investment option to start out with, how do you do it exactly?

Easy. If you've only just met her on the street, you should see if she's got a minute for coffee or tea at the local coffee shop. Take the opportunity to build a little rapport and show her that you're FUN. The rest will come later if you can demonstrate a laid-back, fun personality.

If she doesn't have the time, you then shift into a lower gear and get her phone number and/or email address. After you put such a nice request out there for coffee and she turned you down, she's more likely to agree to give you her contact information, and in most cases she will write it right down.

If she hesitates, which is very likely because you're still essentially a stranger, then you need to reassure her by teasing her. That's right, teasing her.

HER: "Sorry, I don't give out my number." YOU: "It's okay, I'm only going to leave you a hundred messages on your machine. C'mon, write it down." Make her feel a little silly that she doubts your integrity and character. Teasing makes her forget about her weird trust issues.

Hand her a pen and paper and don't look her in the eye; just wait. The next person who speaks, loses.

Usually, she'll write it down. You have to be willing to wait out that long, uncomfortable silence while she figures out if you're a confident guy or a wimp. If you start talking and trying to reassure her of all the reasons she should feel okay about giving you her information, you've already lost.

Just act as if she could do nothing else, and she will do exactly what you want.

Once you have her contact information, you only need to get hold of her and invite her to complete the offer you originally made - tea or coffee at a certain local shop. It's a low-investment, and it's not too pushy or overtly "romantic" that she has to worry about where things have to go.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

There is a point in this silly Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman romance movie. You just have to watch carefully.

I got a membership to that DVD rental service where you get your selections mailed to you, and I've been watching a lot of movies, catching up on the classics. A lot of guy movies, like "The Dirty Dozen", "Where Eagles Dare", "The Majestic Seven", and others.

I happened to put down "Far and Away" as a title, and it came up recently. Now, a lot of you are going to chuckle at that. A silly Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman romance.

But, you know, it was actually pretty watchable.

Not incredibly deep as far as a story goes, but it was nice to watch. Well-produced. And there was something I noticed about it that you ought to look at. Tom Cruise makes both the "chump" error and the "champ" corrections in the course of the movie.

Let's review them:

At first, Tom tells Nicole when she asks him if she's beautiful that "he's never seen anything like her", she basically says, "Good" and turns away from him. You can see the look in his eyes as he's saying to himself, "What the hell happened? I told her she was beautiful, and she rolled over and went to sleep. Isn't that what she wanted?"

Classic mistake when dealing with beautiful women. Never compliment their beauty before you've got them hooked. It has ZERO affect.

Later, Tom is getting some booty attention from the women at the place where he fights, and from the whores that live in his boarding house. Nicole gets bratty and jealous, acting as if she's pissed at him, but really she's just wishing she could act on her attraction. This establishes Tom as desirable by other women, jacking up her attraction even further.

Later on, Tom gets in an argument with Nicole and he throws her in a tub full of water, putting her in her place. You can see the meek manner in which she realizes how she was acting like a bitch.

She's the classical bratty beautiful woman, and Tom learns how to dominate her in the right way. All through the movie, in fact, she behaves in the classic mode of the spoiled beautiful woman who has had every man just fall at her feet.

Note how turned on she becomes when Tom fights - and especially when he fights for her.

Check this movie out sometime as part of your homework. You'll find a bunch of classical behavior patterns in here to learn from.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

Jude Law movie "Alfie" analyzed. What you SHOULD know!

I happened to watch the Jude Law movie "Alfie" the other night.

While I can't recommend it based on its merits as a movie (especially if you have as little time as I do), I found the message in it to be very disturbing and worth noting.

Basically, the film is about a young British guy (good looking, of course) who is a limo driver in New York City. He's a ladies man, and pulls action all the time. Over the course of the movie, you see his cocky and confident facade pulled down by a series of events that make him re-think his approach to life and women.

Now, on the surface, this seems like the standard cautionary tale about not using people and thinking of other people's feelings. After all, Alfie is just using these poor women and being a real jerk.

But wait a minute here... IS he?

He actually is very straightforward about his intentions from the start. He explains that he doesn't want to stick with one woman. He doesn't mistreat any of his ladies, and they all enjoy his company. And while these women all act hurt from time to time about the fact that Alfie isn't likely to settle down with any of them, they all knew the deal from the beginning.

The danger that this movie presents is that it portrays these women as helpless victims, women who we are supposed to believe were tricked into Alfie's bed under false pretenses.

The one that stands out is his friend's girlfriend who actually comes on to HIM and they get jiggy on the pool table at her bar. Now, some bad things happen because of this get-together, but again, she knew what she was doing - and WANTED to do it.

Here's the dangerous and incorrect message that the movie tries to get you to believe: "Women are helpless creatures who can't make their own decisions, and the man that seduces them is a BAD person."

Oh, and one more related message is underneath that one: "Guys who seduce or sleep with more than one woman, OR who don't want to be tied down, are JERKS."

And one more that's even more disturbing: "Women aren't responsible for their decisions."

This is the dangerous message that the media is trying to perpetuate on you. It's dangerous for men and women. And, quite honestly, it's more insulting to women if you look at it in the right light.

Every one of the women in that movie knew what she was doing. It's not the man's responsibility to sit her down and have her sign a disclosure before she sleeps with him so that she acknowledges the reality of what she's getting into.

The real truth is that women often put on romantic blinders when dealing with men. (Men even do this.) We see and believe what we WANT to so that we can DO what we want to.

Unless you have a gun held to your head, you CHOOSE to do everything that you do. No one is pulling your strings.

Unless you are outright lying and being deceitful with a person, they are making the choices that they WANT to make.

Don't believe this garbage that men are the cads and womanizers. Women - and men - everywhere need more guys like Alfie to demonstrate the real Alpha Man traits that are sorely lacking in our world today.

Sometimes all a woman wants is a guy she can have a good time with, no matter how long it lasts.

And if you asked her how she felt about most of the guys she's had her "fun" with, she'd probably tell you she'd gladly do it all over again, knowing exactly how it would have to end.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

Let's start right off by saying that "Alpha" behavior is NOT bad.

There are a lot of guys out there sending conflicting information regarding what it is and isn't to be "Alpha." As in "Alpha Man" or "Alpha Male."

Let's start right off by saying that "Alpha" behavior is NOT bad.

It is NOT what you see animals doing in their nasty time in the zoo. It's NOT attacking a tribe and killing all the young, or any weird stuff like that.

Look, "Alpha" just means the dominant male (and sometimes the female) in a group.

It's the one that is most likely to procreate and get its genes into the next round of the "Keep the species alive" game.

So it really does make sense to get successful with women if you think about it like this. If you don't find a woman to mate with and create little teeny versions of you, then it all ends with you.

Do you deserve to have your genetic legacy carried on into the next generation? I hope so. And more importantly, I hope you believe so.

So don't listen to a lot of this garbage and double speak out there regarding "Alpha Men" and what they should or should not be.

Here are a few things an Alpha IS:

• Clever/smart/cunning
  
• Ambitious
  
• Excited
  
• Honorable
  
• Dominant (not aggressive, but demonstrating superior social skills)
  
• Stable
  
• Fit (healthy lifestyle)
  
• Curious
  
• Balanced
  
• Natural

Here are a few things an Alpha is NOT:

• Aggressive
  
• Angry at women
  
• Verbally abusive
  
• Arrogant
  
• Obnoxious

There seems to be some confusion (and most of it is created by other guys hoping to cash in on your confusion) about what it means to be a STRONG and persuasive man in today's society.

I'm not even going to throw you more of that evolutionary stuff because it really doesn't matter. When you think about it, it just makes sense that we want people who appear or demonstrate more social value than us. It's because we naturally want to latch on to their power.

Again, it all comes back to power.

So being an "Alpha" doesn't mean you're dragging women back to a cave. Or that you're being an aggressive, pushy jerk. Or that you're being forceful and mean. Or that you're inconsiderate. Or that you're acting like a brutish animal.

It means that you understand the basic primal reasons a woman is attracted to a man, and you're not afraid to BE a man. Not a cardboard, one-dimensional wimp that's afraid to let women know he desires them.

You see, there are only two motivating forces in life: Desire and Fear.

That's it. We are motivated purely by what we feel we WANT, and what we feel we most want to avoid.

Fear is a stronger motivator for humans because it helped us survive potentially life-threatening situations. You're smart to fear wild animals, or large trains heading toward you. You can't afford the luxury of analysis in these situations. A delay could cost you your life.

On the other hand, in our modern society, there isn't much you need to fear. In fact, we fear too much already.

And the fear that is most crippling is the fear of LOSS.

Everyone's favorite short green dude, Yoda, even said it in the latest Star Wars flick... "Fear of loss leads to the dark side."

And so it does. It leads you down a path where you never gain because you're too afraid of losing what you have.

An Alpha Man understands that the only way to live is to wake up each day and understand that everything you have was just given back to you today. And when he goes to sleep at night, he gives it all back.

Lose this attraction to your possessions before they possess you...

Whoah, I'm getting very philosophical here.

What I'm trying to get across to you here is that you should avoid becoming attached, even to TERMINOLOGY.

When someone tells you that being an Alpha is bad, or it's this and that, remember that they're trying to color your perception. They're trying to steer you away from a path of understanding and enlightenment.

Trust your own intelligence to figure out what an Alpha Man REALLY is.

He's already inside of you. It just takes a little work to let this instinct out so that you can become the COMPLETE you.

There are a lot of guys out there who haven't been able to open themselves up to letting out this TRUE nature inside them. They hide it behind "Politically Correct" BS about not hurting other people's feelings, or being sensitive.

It's really a fear to let other people see the REAL you. The man that wants to achieve. The man that wants women in his life. The man that wants monetary success. The man that wants power over the forces of life that seem to control him.

Forget about all this "Alpha" talk and just open your mind up to finding this part of you that isn't held back by fear, and is ready to reach out for understanding that could - and will - change your life for the better.

So on one hand we have the lowly AFC, or non-Alpha. He's a little insecure, possibly low self-esteem, but WANTS to grow and change.

On the other hand we have the Alpha, the confident and assertive man with healthy communication and self-esteem.

There is only one direction of growth here, and it's from the AFC to the Alpha. And what is the Alpha? He's a MODEL.

He's what YOU need to be.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

by Derek Vitalio


Let's clear up the confusion surrounding compliments.

A lot of guys think that the way into a girl's pants is to suck up to her and kiss her butt through excessive compliments and gift-buying.

Of course, giving too many compliments to a woman, especially about her looks, only makes you look NEEDY and desperate. At best she'll think "Oh another desperate guy," and at worst it gives her the green light to walk all over you.

On the other hand, some guys have the philosophy that you should NEVER compliment a girl to avoid looking needy. But this isn't right either.

Giving a compliment can be VERY powerful with a woman when you say it directly, smoothly, and with no apologies. The key difference is this - if you give her a compliment from a position of power then she will see you as a powerful person and she will continue to work for your approval. On the other hand, if you give her a compliment out of sexual neediness then she will see you as a weak beggar.


* Make Compliments Work For You

Compliments are useful in that they can put her in a good frame of mind about you. A compliment can work for you by noticing something she put a lot of effort into, something that most guys don't take the time to notice - therefore setting yourself apart from the pack.

For instance, if she's wearing something unusual, compliment on that. Or is she has put highlights in hair, mention that. If she's gone out of her way to stick out her breasts, you can even compliment her on that.

If you can't think of anything, tell her how she has such a nice energy. In ALL cases it's important that your attitude is calm and playful - NOT needy and desperate.

And whatever you say, say it like that you mean it. If your voice isn't congruent with the power of your compliment, it will ring false.

Now, should you compliment a woman on her looks?

For especially beautiful women in particular, avoid complimenting their beauty. They may well appreciate it, but that's what EVERY guy tells them, and they probably have the compliment associated with a lot of losers. So you're not setting yourself apart from the losers and you risk getting associated with a bunch of needy desperate guys.


* Give It, Then Fractionate Away

Compliments are made more powerful by using them SPARINGLY and FRACTIONATING.

For example, you may give her a compliment ONCE on her great smile, and then start being more cocky and funny, or simply change the direction of the conversation away from her. Don't continue to dwell on her great smile.

Or, compliment and then instantly do a "take back" which can be even more powerful. For example, say to her, "You know, it looks like you put a lot of time into your hair... I mean it's really beautiful... but... I just noticed... that... you have some hair that's out of place and is going a little crazy right here."

In this example, you give the compliment about her hair, and then you "take back" when you tell her it's out of place. Just make sure the "take back" is something comparatively minor to the compliment and can be corrected, otherwise it comes off as an insult. For example, if you said, "Your hair is beautiful, but that style went out in the 60's," she'd probably take that as an insult.

If anything, just keep in the mind the fundamental rules; give compliments sparingly, if at all. And if you feel you're about to give one out of neediness or for lack of anything else better to say, keep it to yourself.

For more tips on effectively using compliments to score with women click here.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com

by Derek Vitalio


There's an amazing little trick I use ALL the time. And what's so great about it is that it will literally compel a woman to talk with you no matter how hot she is or how uninterested she may be initially.

Human beings are fundamentally curious animals. We are biologically wired to want to know. Ever get lured into one of those cheesy crime investigation shows on TV to find out who done it and how... only to curse yourself 60 minutes later that you wish you had done something more useful with your time?

Or ever notice how much more exciting it is to open a gift wrapped present and seeing what's inside rather than just having something plainly handed to you?

Curiosity is a "click whirr", knee-jerk response that all human beings reliably and consistently respond to. And you can use curiosity to literally force women to respond enthusiastically to your advances with "click whirr" reliability.

To illustrate, when you first approach a woman you might say to her, "Excuse me... I don't know if anyone has ever told you this before, but I noticed something really interesting about you." This is called the "Hook".

I can guarantee that 99 out of 100 women will stop dead in their tracks and ask what it is that you noticed. You have used her own curiosity to literally force her to stop and respond with curiosity... you have hooked her like a fish to your line and she won't be able let go!

The second thing you must do, and which so many men get wrong, is that after you throw her the Hook, you must SHUT UP. Yes, shut up! Throw the hook and shut up and WAIT for her to respond. For example,

"Excuse me... I don't know if anyone has ever told you this before, but I noticed something really interesting about you." SHUT UP AND WAIT for her response.

This may seem like an obvious thing to do, but a lot of guys tend to throw their hook and immediately give the answer without giving their worm time to wiggle and squirm. For example, they'll ruin the power of the hook and say instead, "I noticed something really interesting about you... it's those boots you're wearing... I use to have a girlfriend who wore those same boots!"

In this example, the hook is there but the girl never had the chance to get her curiosity going!

Here are some more examples of the Hook and Shut-up Technique.

Her: "So what do you do?"
You: "You'll never believe it if I told you." This gets her curiosity flaming! Now SHUT UP, dead silence!!
Her: "WHAT?"
You: "Well, can you guess? ;)" Now you're really digging it in like a knife!

Her: "So what do you do?"
You: "I practice hypnotism." Shut up, and wait for her to respond. She'll literally be sucked in against her will.

Another variation of the Hook and Shut-up Technique is to cast your hook and then begin talking about something entirely else. This way, as you talk to her, she'll have that curiosity gnawing at the back of her mind and she won't leave you until it's been scratched! Here's an example.

Her: "So what do you do?"
You: "Oh, what I do is really interesting... which reminds me of what you said earlier about liking exciting, adventuresome people and what happened to me when I was climbing Mt Fuji in Japan last year..."

You can even TWIST a hook deeper and deeper in order to touch her... except that SHE asked for it out of curiosity and you're just showing her what SHE asked for.

For example, grab her hand without asking and say to her, "Hmmm... that's really interesting." That's the first hook. Be sure to shut-up and let her respond.

Her: "What is it?"

You: "The lines in your hands... (laugh) man, I don't believe this." You're twisting that hook even deeper!

Her: "What??"

You: "Well I can tell a lot of interesting things about you by looking at your palm... and I'm not sure if I should tell you this." Twist that hook even deeper!

Her: "You read palms? What do they say?"

Proceed to trace the lines in her palms with your finger, telling her that the lines show you that deep down she's a very sexual person... that she has a side she keeps hidden from everyone else... and that it's your and her little secret. Obviously, you don't need to know how to read her palm to pull this off, just make up whatever you want!

To become a truly good in leading women into conversations with you where THEY are eager to participate, write down 15 new hooks each day for 10 days straight. Eventually you'll come to the point where you're naturally and automatically generating powerful hooks in conversations with beautiful women.

Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com

by Derek Vitalio


A lot of guys, even when they've had success approaching women on the street, don't understand the art of the club pick up. In some ways, working a club is different than working a mall or a coffee shop. In a club, it's especially important to be PLAYFUL and to use a talkative state to approach groups of women with.

This one night I was on my way out of a club when I found myself right behind this woman with a beautiful behind. I noticed her shoes were untied. So I said, “Aren’t your shoes untied or something?”

Hottie: Why don't you tie them for me?

She lifted her leg for me. Here she is trying to PEG ME DOWN and establish her alpha status. Not with Derek!

ME: Hmm… you don't even know me, not for even two minutes and you’re already wanting me to tie your shoes? What is this?!? Only princesses get that kind of treatment.

Notice I don't accept her frame, but I do so in playful way.

Hottie: Well you can call me princess if you want to.

ME: (Playfully) I don’t know if I should be calling you that… you really don’t deserve it yet.

Hottie: (hitting my arm) You’re so mean!

ME: haha… so what’s up?!?!

Saying "What's up?!?!" is a good conversation restarter if you run out of something to say in the moment.

Hottie: Well I just got these shoes..

ME: Aaaww, how cute. You got these shoes to wear for me!

Hottie: Of course! Hey, come over here, walk with me.

We walk, she turns around and says,

Hottie: Do you want to go with me to drop off my friend?

ME: I don’t know, maybe you’ll rape me or something

Notice I don't give her a straight answer. I come with the assumption that she's after me.

Hottie: (Hitting my arm) OMG you’re such a jerk!

ME: I love when a girl calls me a jerk... come here… you’re going to be my brand new little girlfriend.

This is just an outright cocky move, to playfully call her your girlfriend. Notice how I had rapport with her first and she play-hit my arm before I busted this move.

This is just one quick example. Nevertheless, the shortness is deceiving; in there are some pieces of real GOLD. In Seduction Science however I give greater detail a number of conversations word for word dealing with how to seduce women - and complete analysis of every line I use.

Best Regards,

Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com

by Derek Vitalio


Recently I had a "double date" with a buddy of mine, and our dates were two women we had both met at a club the prior weekend. My girl and I were very much into each other, but as the night progressed I noticed that my friend's date was not so much into him.

When I looked a little closer, searching for clues as to what he could do to remedy the situation, I noticed that there was a psychological distance between the two of them. They didn't have rapport and their interaction was characterized by awkwardness.

After a while I realized that my buddy could make her feel much more comfortable by relaxing, lightening up, and implementing some casual touch.

I wasn't going to tell him what to do right there on the date, so I waited for the ladies to go to the bathroom. Then I told him to touch his date on the arm when they she was laughing and especially when he playfully teased her. I knew that if he just did these few things, that they would naturally get much more intimate.

My friend was really thankful, because he was so caught up in how cute this girl was that he wasn’t thinking straight.

Once the ladies returned from the bathroom I immediately noticed the shift in my friend’s behavior. He relaxed, laid back, and proceeded to playfully crack lame jokes and tease her.

At first, I got the feeling that she felt a little weirded out, because he hadn’t laid a finger on her all night. But he didn’t acknowledge her confusion and went right ahead with what he was doing as it were the most normal thing to do.

I noticed that slowly she was becoming used to his touch. And when he began to playfully tease her, he touched her some more, getting her even more comfortable.

On one occasion, we were in a conversation about having monogamy versus polygamy. Suddenly, my friend's girl asked him, "So do you think polygamy is correct?" This was her way of testing him to see who was in control.

So he replied, "Oh yes, in fact I was raised a polygamist. I live with 4 women and they all LOVE ME SO MUCH!"

She laughed, and playfully hit him on the arm, saying, "Stop it! Tell me!"

So he continued with, "Yea, in fact, I don’t think you and I can go any further with this relationship without them interviewing you. The house has to live in harmony, you know."

She said, "You are SO mean!" At which time, he just reached over and hugged her, saying "AWWWWWH" and then continued the fun by throwing the question to me.

In essence he made her emotions buzz with his statements, and then used her defeat as an excuse to hug her.

I had rented at the beach that weekend, so we had a place to hang out at after dinner. The following day, my friend was calling me a genius ;)

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Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com

by Derek Vitalio


I've seen too many guys lose an easy close because they made one critical mistake -- they didn't isolate the girl when they had the chance.

Let's look at the basic psychology of females. Women will only go so far with you as long as she's in sight of her friends. As long as she knows her friends are around, the infamous slut factor kicks in. 97% of women want to avoid being categorized as a slut at all costs. Usually the only thought holding a woman back from getting freaky on you is, " What would my friends think of me if I...?"

You can better understand the social pressures women face if you step into their shoes. Just imagine if you were with a hot babe on the dance floor - but - your parents were in the corner watching your every move. Would you feel comfortable simply grabbing and groping her ASSets and tongue lashing her mouth? Not likely -- you'd probably hold back because of what your parents might think.

This doesn't mean that women don't want sex. Women DO want sex. And good sex, if they can get it. Why do you think half of American girls make their trip to Spring Break Mecca every year? Down South their family and friends are one thousand miles away. The social norms are out the window. All of their old anchors are gone. They're free to go wild and crazy and have sex without being labeled a slut. So they just go for it.

Just as on Spring Break, you always must separate the woman you're seducing from her friends and family. You must get her alone and into your world and into your world alone.

I went out with this gorgeous girl from Argentina once, who I met while doing approaches at the mall. Let's call her Tina. I planned to bring Tina home to my pad for a dinner of Salmon and lemon sauce I had carefully prepared the night before. I thought everything was going to be perfect -- boy was I wrong!

She called me just before I was about to leave to instead pick her up at the mall. So I drove over. To my surprise, Tina had her FRIEND with her. This was bad news, because the situation was violating my cardinal principle of ISOLATION.

Tina asked me to give them a ride back to her house. I agreed, thinking that would be the end of it. But once we got back, her friend said she needed a ride home -- the problem was, she lived 40 minutes away!

By the time I drove her friend home, the two of them were talking away and then invited more of their friends to come over. It had become a girls' night out and I couldn't make my normal moves. I had been played when I should have put my foot down and ended the adventure as soon as her girlfriends became involved. I never took charge to aggressively isolate her and I had lost the opportunity because of it.

The following month I went out with a cute blonde. We got together in her house and I started playing with her hands and hair in the kitchen. Within a few minutes we were making out against the kitchen sink. At first, I had no intention of leaving the house the way things were going.

Suddenly, one of her prying housemates walked in on us by accident. Introductions were made and the small talk proceeded. The cute blonde was no longer in the mood to kiss in front of her friend (the slut factor had kicked in) and her housemate didn't look like she was going to go away on her own. This time I took charge of the situation and told my girl in the middle of the conversation, Jeez, its getting late - I think we should get going now! I ran her out of that house away from her friend as fast as I could.

Once I had her isolated alone she was free to act her natural, lusty self and the night proceeded superbly from then on.

Don't be one of those guys who loses out from making this one critical mistake. Isolate the girl when you have your chance!


Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com